This episode of The Nurse Keith Show is inspired by a recent blog post that was itself inspired by a conversation with a career coaching client. We all have our own types of intelligence and brilliance — which of yours do you still need to tap in the interest of your nursing career?
Here is an excerpt from the original blog post identifying the main reservoirs of untapped brilliance that I cajole you to explore:
Your Intuitive Brilliance
Have you ever walked into a job interview and felt certain that you were in the right place at the right time? Have you walked into a potential employer’s facility and had a gut reaction that it was the perfect place for you?
Alternately, perhaps you’ve sat down for an interview with the sudden absolute knowledge that you would never work for this person in a million years; you may have even felt nauseous the moment you stepped in the door. This isn’t just coincidence; it’s intuition at work.
On the clinical side, you know very well what I mean when I say that nurses can sometimes intuit that something’s wrong with a patient before any actual symptoms are apparent. Your intuitive brilliance can certainly shine in those moments, and you need to own that skill (and believe it when it happens).
The times when we second guess our intuition is when we can often miss the mark or throw away an otherwise fortuitous opportunity. The intuitive “hit” could be about a patient, or it could be about something entirely non-clinical. Choosing to pay attention to your intuition is key, and you can learn to listen to it more deeply.
Your intuitive brilliance is a skill, not just your imagination. It’s a skill innate to human beings, and it can be honed, sharpened, and strengthened with practice — and belief.
Your Emotional Brilliance
Most of us have probably heard of emotional intelligence (EI) and the emotional quotient (EQ), and this underlies the idea of your emotional brilliance.
Your emotional brilliance allows you to feel deeply, to use that brilliant nursing intuition, and to be tuned into your patients at a level that other colleagues may not share.
Emotional intelligence has to do with your ability to read and respond to your own emotions, as well as the emotions of others. Many individuals on the further end of the autism spectrum are not able to read others’ emotions; social cues go unrecognized, and body language and facial expression hold less meaning than they do for many of us. Having said that, it’s been demonstrated that emotional recognition can be taught and learned, even among some of those people living on the autism spectrum.
You may at times have contact with fellow professionals who seem unable or unwilling to respond appropriately to the emotions of others. You may know a steely-eyed surgeon who seems immune to feeling anything at all about her patients; consider that perhaps she stuffs her emotions down so that she can maintain a certain clinical distance when performing frighteningly complex surgeries. She may also just be a person completely out of touch with her emotional life.
Or maybe there’s a nurse who appears to see patients as bothersome burdens rather than people in medical crisis; he may be burned out, emotionally exhausted, or in pain himself.
Emotional brilliance can be the very life force that empowers you through each day; it’s the engine of your authenticity and connection with others. Even when some colleagues appear to be completely out of touch with their emotional lives, you can make a different choice. You can lead by example by being intuitive, sensitive, attuned to others, and unfalteringly empathic.
Your Relational Brilliance
Relational brilliance and relational intelligence are directly connected to the notion of emotional intelligence. Relational intelligence is, in a sense, where emotional intelligence is put into action.
Relational brilliance and relational intelligence assist you on the interpersonal level when relating to patients and colleagues, but also in terms of your inner life. And if your inner life is teeming with depth and insight, your ability to be fully present for your patients’ deeper longings and grief will be exponentially strengthened.
Your brilliance may lie in communication, listening, demonstrating empathy, motivational interviewing, and other skills related to interaction with other human beings.
What is it about you that makes your relationships special? How do people feel when others are around you? What impact do you have on the people in your orbit?
As an introvert, you may relate more readily with one or two people at a time, whereas an extrovert gains energy and joy from interacting with people in any configuration. Both ways of being are valuable. The relational brilliance of an introvert can be just as powerful as that of an extrovert; it’s simply a different approach and relational style.
Whether you’re a natural leader who others look to for visionary thinking, or you’re a quiet observer who chimes in sparingly but are always spot on and perceptive, your value is equal.
Relational brilliance will never steer you wrong; it’s a skill and personal quality worthy of being nurtured and strengthened throughout your lifetime.
Your Nursing Brilliance
As a nurse, your brilliance shines through in many ways, both on and off duty. Nurses are so very trusted by the public, and our individual and collective brilliance is like a beacon to those who need both the art and science of nursing to work on their behalf.
Your nursing brilliance may manifest in your relationships with patients. Some nurses thrive on connection, and this can transform the nurse-patient dynamic in powerful and positive ways.
Or perhaps your brilliance lies in the ability to cut to the chase when reading the latest research and evidence-based findings, and then communicating your findings to other staff members. Your brilliance may be as an educator and researcher.
The members of the nursing profession need to recognize that we need nurses in every sector of our profession and the healthcare space. Not everyone thrives at the bedside, and the validity of one nurse’s contributions are no less than that of another. Those who work in the ICU need to see the brilliance of those who work in home health or education, and vice versa. Nursing brilliance is everywhere you look, and its impact is beyond measure.
Your Lifelong Brilliance
Sharpening and strengthening your emotional and relational intelligence will certainly move the needle in your professional relationships, but also in your personal life, which will be enriched by the ways in which you can more deeply tap into your various channels of brilliance.
Meanwhile, the brilliance and collective power of your network will only enhance your professional and personal lives, just as your intuitive brilliance will shine through at just the right moments when you pay it heed.
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Keith Carlson, RN, BSN, NC-BC, is the Board Certified Nurse Coach behind NurseKeith.com and the well-known blog, Digital Doorway.
Keith is co-host of RNFMRadio.com, a wildly popular nursing podcast; he also hosts The Nurse Keith Show, his own podcast focused on career advice and inspiration for nurses. Keith was previously the resident nursing career expert at Nurse.com.
A widely published nurse writer, Keith is the author of “Savvy Networking For Nurses: Getting Connected and Staying Connected in the 21st Century.”
He has also contributed chapters to a number of books related to the nursing profession, and has written for Nurse.org, Nurse.com, MultiViews News Service, LPNtoBSNOnline, StaffGarden, Working Nurse Magazine, and other online platforms.
Mr. Carlson brings a plethora of experience as a nurse thought leader, online nurse personality, holistic career coach, writer, and well-known successful nurse entrepreneur.